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Sue always had good reasons why she got herself into the messes she did. It was her younger brother’s fault when things were found broken around the house. She even blamed him for her messy room.

In high school Sue blamed her poor grades on the fact her teachers didn’t “like” her or she was too sick to go to classes or the other students didn’t treat her right.

Sue’s didn’t keep a job very long. She blamed her coworkers, the shift manager, the company policies. It was always a surprise when she was let go.

The Blame Game Continues

Sue’s marriage with Frank started good, but soon they were facing painful, financial struggles. Frank discovered “surprise” charges on the credit card and checks written on an empty account. When he confronted her she blamed him for not making enough money to take care of their home and needs. Besides, he was too controlling” about finances. It was his fault.

Tension in the marriage grew stronger and the gap bigger. Sue was angry she married such a loser and began to use alcohol to deal with the pain. She believed it was Frank’s fault she drank.

Sue drank to get up, drank to get through the morning, the afternoon, the evening and to get ready for bed. She was driving under the influence. That led to a DUI. There were court problems, fines, probation and a few days in jail. Of course, it was everyone else’s fault.

Sue left Frank or Frank left Sue. It was a mutual agreement. Her family distanced themselves. She lost her friends and eventually her respect. She was isolated and got angry at everyone who put her in the situation she was in. Her denial ran very deep.

When Sue finally hit bottom and got sick and tired, her denial stopped. She cried out to God. “I can’t take it any more. I’m out of control and I need help. I’m ready to change. Please God just take over.”

Ready for Help

That was the beginning of a new life. From that moment God stepped into Sue’s life and led her on a life-changing course that totally transformed her attitude. It started when she admitted she needed help.

Jesus talked about how vital it is to admit one’s fault and need. He started his famous Beatitudes: "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 5:3).

When we are “poor in spirit” we realize we need help. We admit we can’t do life on our own. We don’t have all the answers. The “poor in spirit” lose arrogance. They stop sticking their noses up in the air, but stick their hands up to God.

Being “poor in spirit” is a good thing. It is a healing thing. Admitting is the first step to healing. It breaks the power that blaming has to keep us stuck in thinking it’s everyone else’s fault.

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