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The On-Purpose Family
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During our first year of marriage, my husband and I built a house. When I say “built,” I use the term loosely because aside from painting and wallpapering, most of the construction resulted by others more skilled.

Because of our inexperience and lack of knowledge we made mistakes, as you might expect. When the concrete people came to pour the slab for our home they asked my husband if it should all be poured at the same level. He said, “Yes, pour it all level.” That was great, except that a garage needs to be several inches lower than the house. So the garage became a family room. It worked out, but not according to the original plan.

Houses are not built by chance. You need to follow a blueprint and architectural plans or your house will not turn out as expected.

Family construction is the same in many ways. Relationships don’t just happen; they are built through purpose, wisdom and skill. A solid spiritual foundation in our children doesn’t just happen by chance; it is developed as we invest time and energy into teaching and modeling what it means to be a Christian.

Proverbs 24:3, 4 teaches, “By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” These verses speak to intention and purpose when establishing a home. The promise is that a home built on-purpose will be filled with “rare and beautiful treasures.”


A home filled with rare and beautiful treasures sounds appealing, but these verses indicate effort that must be put forth. Are we willing to work for this? We study consumer information to educate ourselves about which car or refrigerator to purchase, but we assume we will automatically know how to go about making a great family.

Our families matter to God and they play a crucial role in society and the church. What we do in families really matters – both for this life and for eternity! That being the case, we need to be intentional about equipping ourselves for this important job.

Whether you are in the middle of marriage and family relationships or looking forward to being there someday, it’s never too early or too late to get the information and skills necessary for success. Educate yourself, get help when you need it and don’t be afraid to admit it if things are not going well! There are many great resources available on Christian marriage and parenting, as well as Christian counselors who can help you build a solid home.*

Most importantly, talk to God about your families. Daily be washed by His Word and allow the Holy Spirit to transform you into the kind of person who can live in loving relationship to others. Then yours will truly be an on-purpose family, a home filled with “rare and beautiful treasures.”

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*A good place to start: www.focusonthefamily.com, www.familylife.com, and www.adventistfamilyministries.com

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